I like these "rules" I think I've even lived these rules for the most part:
1. Immediately recognize, acknowledge, and accept the reality of your situation.
2. Remain calm and keep a sense of humor.
3. Get organized, set up a routine of small, manageable tasks in an overall survival plan, and institute discipline.
4. Be bold (take necessary risks) but cautious (carry out each task meticuously) while taking steps to reach short-term goals.
5. Celebrate each success, no matter how small. Take joy in completing each task.
6. Be grateful to be alive.
7. Keep the brain engaged--sing songs, recite poetry, mentally solve math problems, count things.
8. Appreciate the beauty of your surroundings. Could survivors look at the flooded streets of New Orleans with awe and wonder? If so, it would both calm them and allow them to take in more information about their challenging new environment.
9. Develop a deep conviction that you’re going to live.
10. Give up the fear of dying. Don’t let pain bother you too much.
11. Do whatever is necessary. Don’t over- or underestimate your abilities. but get what you need and do what you have to do.
12. Never give up. There is always one more thing you can do.
But I would add this:
And when we speak we are afraid our words will not be heard nor welcomed but when we are silent we are still afraid. So it is better to speak remembering we were never meant to survive.--Audre Lorde